My pastor (sermonshorts.com) tweeted this article. It makes some great points about porn addiction, the abuse of women in the porn industry, and how porn destroys oneness in your marriage.

http://joshdixonline.com/staying-faithful-means-no-porn-brothers

One section that was particularly compelleing to me was this:

…married men, pursuing oneness is an essential key for you and your wife.  Everything we do either moves toward our spouse or away from her.  There is no middle ground.  If you do nothing, you drift.  Oneness has to be a constant pursuit.  So in a fight, if you and your spouse can have oneness as the goal–not compromise, but oneness–instead of just winning the fight or discussion, you are saying your relationship is more important than your argument or position.  And if you can see that everything you do is either actively pursuing her or moving away from her, you can have an internal check for yourself when you see that you’re drifting apart.  My wife and I have made this part of the language we use to talk about our relationship every day.  Frankly, it has saved us through all kinds of suffering that could have easily made us drift.