David Zailer posted an extremely good update to his blog today.

http://operationintegritydaily.blogspot.com/2010/08/recovering-healthy-relationship-with.html

Here are a few quotes from the article. They are in the context of doing a Step 4 inventory of our past sins.

No matter how we may rationalize it differently, our addictions have been destroying us. Part of the insanity of addiction is how we tend to minimize the damage that our addictions do.

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We look ourselves over much like we would examine a part of our body that is hurting. We do it with care, in a nurturing way.

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We need to understand that addictions grow because of self-centeredness. Addiction is not the cause of moral failings nor is it a moral failing in and of itself. Addiction, and any subsequent moral failings are caused by spiritual and emotional longings that have gone unmet. Because of this, it is critical that we see how we have contributed to our own spiritual and emotional deprivation. For you see, our addictions take hold of us as we seek to meet needs that we cannot meet and escape pain that is too much for us to handle on our own. Sadly, in addiction, the very things that we have used to escape our pain actually increase our pain. Then, addictions grow and deepen all the more.