The short podcast at this link gives some great perspective and advice on how to share your struggle with pornography with your spouse.

Here are a couple of points:

• Talk to someone “safe” first such as your pastor, a counselor or trusted friend
• It is better to tell your spouse than to be caught by them
• Honesty is the foundation of intimacy
• All of the gory details are not necessary
• Don’t unload on your spouse to ease your guilt, but to create openness and honesty
• Be prepared to receive their anger and don’t let that deter you from being honest
• Don’t wait for the perfect time – it will never arrive – it will always be awkward and difficult

Brian Dodd on Leadership has a great post up now that all husbands must read. It is about servant leadership and being Christ-like toward our wives. Thanks Brian!

http://briandoddonleadership.com/2010/07/31/the-best-leadership-advice-i-ever-received/

For those of us who are married, you know that investing in the relationship with our mate is one of the most profitable activities we can do. MarriedLife, a ministry devoted to helping people experience the individual growth necessary for a healthy marriage, has kicked off a campaign called The Great Date Experiment. This is how they introduce it.

Most of us want to spend time with our spouse, but most of us don’t spend enough time with our spouse. When we do get time together, a lot of us experience the classic, “What do you want to do? I don’t know, what do you want to do?”

So, your task if you choose to accept it: go to the site, download a date and invest in your marriage!

I got the last of the ScreamFree Marriage email mini-seminar today. It has a lot of really helpful little nuggets. You can see it in entirety here.

For who struggle and are married, you know that your marriage can be one of your biggest supports and biggest triggers to act out. Take the time to invest in yourself and your marriage!

Brian and Darcy on the Couple’s Blog at XXXChurch.com just posted a bit of their story. It is really worth the read; both as a wife or a man struggling with porn addiction.

Thank you Brian and Darcy for being so open about what God has brought you through. Your courage is inspiring and your transparency will help a lot of people begin opening up about their own struggles.